“If you accept the
expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you never will change
Being negative is really
easy. That is why there are so many negative people out there! Unfortunately,
there is no way to live life without encountering those with different
perspectives of the world, so we have to equip ourselves to deal with folks
with a bad attitude. Here are seven way that can assist you in dealing with
negative people while still keeping a
When we decided to take
control of our lives, part of that involve making tough choices about things we can
control. For the most part, we can decide who we want to spend time with or
not. If you hang around a negative person for fun, maybe it is time to move on
from that interpersonal connection.
If you can’t avoid the
person, as is often the case with
many social connections, try to limit the amount of time you spend with them.
You can do this by specifically scheduling the amount of time you want to spend
with them and sticking to it whenever possible. After you are around this
person, try to do an activity that will recharge your positive energy.
3. Hang Out in a Group
Especially if you know
other like-minded people, hanging out in a group can ebb the flow of the
Sometimes negative people
don’t even realize how negative they are being. If you feel a person is
excessively negative, you could take the time to have a chat with them about
it. Maybe try to inquire if something stressful or bad is going on in the background
of their lives to make them have such a negative attitude. Although
confrontation is often uncomfortable for all parties involved, it can lead to
greater understanding in our relationships.
If you find that a person
is constantly being negative, occasionally try to correct their attitude by
counter balancing what they’re saying with something positive. For example, if
they are complaining about their job, perhaps point out that they are lucky to
have one. Also, if they are getting down on themselves, make sure to point out
the positive traits of their personality.
6. Switch it Up
Sometimes a change of
subject is necessary if you want to avoid a negative rant from your friends.
Whether we have negative or positive thought cycles, it is easy to get stuck in
that cycle without an escape unless we mindfully switch directions. If you find
the negative person is stuck on a subject, try to change the course of
conversation to something more positive or light hearted.
7. Do NOT Take Responsibility
for Negative People
Once you are exposed to
the power of positive thinking, it
can be tempting to empower everyone you know all the good things it brings to
living. The problem with this is that people are not projects. While you will
be a positive example by living as a more enlightened being, you can’t force
negative people to be positive. Do not feel like it is your responsibility to
transform a negative person, because it may just end up dragging you down.