AS AN INTROVERT MYSELF, I CAN TELL YOU, THERE ARE MORE THAN A FEW THINGS THAT WE JUST DON’T LIKE DOING. NOT BECAUSE WE CAN’T DO THEM, BUT BECAUSE WE FIND JOY IN OTHER WAYS.
Introverts, extroverts, and ambiverts…we all have defining differences in our personalities that make us who we are. Ambiverts can handle pretty much any social situation, albeit in small doses, and extroverts have no problem blending into a crowd or spontaneously hitting up the club with their friends.
But introverts handle social interaction in their own way. Not to say that we don’t enjoy spending time with close friends and family who we genuinely like, because we do. We show emotion just like anyone else.
HOWEVER, THERE ARE SOME SOCIAL SITUATIONS THAT INTROVERTS SIMPLY DO NOT ENJOY.
1. SMALL TALK.
It feels like forced conversation, and there is nothing we dislike more than feeling obliged to say something to someone we don’t really know. Yes, it is raining outside, Bob, and no, I don’t know when it will let up.
THAT’S NOT GOING TO KINDLE A FRIENDSHIP.
We spend time trying to figure out ways to avoid these conversations like the plague.
Don’t get me wrong, introverts enjoy listening to music at concerts, and watching movies in the cinema with their friends, but what they don’t like about those experiences are the crowds. There is nothing worse than having to be squished next to a sweaty stranger who doesn’t understand “personal space,” or some loudmouth who has no concept of “normal speaking volume.”
3. PHONE CALLS.
Okay, so most people dislike chatting on the phone. But introverts can’t stand it. Mostly because it involves loads of small talk. (Remember how much we love that?)
If it’s an emergency, by all means give us a call. But if it’s “to talk” or “just see how things are going,” please, send an email or a text and save us the stress and anxiety that comes with hearing our ringtone.
4. SOCIAL GATHERINGS.
This one may sound obvious, but it’s pretty darn true. And I’m not talking about the mandatory ones like holiday get-together with family, or the office party for that promotion you earned. I’m talking about social gatherings like happy hour, or when your friends ask if you want to “hang out” because they’re bored.
BEING ALONE DOES NOT MEAN INTROVERTS ARE LONELY. SOMETIMES WE JUST WANT TO BE AWAY FROM PEOPLE AND ENJOY OUR ALONE TIME, ALONE.
5. NOISE FOR THE SAKE OF NOISE.
Too few people appreciate silence. It seems there is always a need for some kind of noise in the background of people’s lives. Whether it’s the radio, the T.V., or just turning the fan on for the white noise, creating more sound than really needs to be there is something introverts can’t stand.
Honestly, you’ll be amazed how much more you can focus on and accomplish when you reduce the level of noice in your home, and your life.
6. BEING TOLD “YOU’RE TOO QUIET.”
There is no such thing as “too quiet,” so introverts really don’t like it when people tell them that. You can be too loud, sure, but too quiet?
Introverts don’t feel the need to vocally express every thought they have, or every emotion they feel. If that’s your cup of tea, there is nothing wrong with that, but don’t tell someone they are “too quiet” just because they don’t do things as you would do them.